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Dec. 7th, 2009
03:43 pm - Fetlife's giveaway
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01:27 pm - New name:)
I did it! Now I've finally changed my name. I'll receive my new paper work in a couple of days and then it's official! And damn, those people were nice to me:) So from now on I'll be Morgan instead of Anya. Didn't just choose that name because it's gender neutral, but also because I like it the best.
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contentDec. 6th, 2009
10:10 pm - RIP
I only just read about the death of Christine Daniels/Mike Penner. i'm totally torn up about this. I am posting this in reverence to their passing. This is just way way too common.
The LA Times article
WARNING: the comment section is ROUGH so use caution. though i will say among the cluelessness there are a ton of supportive tributes.
Rest in peace
(speculative emotional responses removed by request)
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crushed07:24 pm - Yet another intro
Hello. I just wanted to introduce myself. I'm really terrible at these things...but here we go.
I'm Chelsea. I'm a 24-year old student attending Rutgers, majoring in Comparative Literature. I've been out as MtF to myself for about two years now. It came gradually over the years...when I was a kid I imagined myself as a girl. In fact, it consumed most of my daydreams. In high school, I was never into the male gender role. After high school, I found myself becoming increasingly interested in crossdressing and feminization. I can't remember the exact moment when I realized this fact about me, but it was after reading online about the experiences of one transgendered woman that just made things...click.
I have the support of amazing friends, and am with a boy right now who not only accepts me for what I am, but has promised to be with me wherever this leads. I'm still quite undecided on going through transition for various reasons, but I've decided to hold off starting it (if I decide to) until I'm out of school. I'm looking forward to reading through this community to learn more about the process and what it entails.
So as to not make this a completely pointless post, I was wondering if someone can point me to some legitimate references on the process? I find it difficult to dig through the countless herbal supplement ads whenever I dive into Google.
Thank you. <3
Dec. 5th, 2009
02:41 pm - Intro
Hi, I'm new. I'm genderqueer, and I'm also on the discussion board "What is Gender?". I'd like to go by Teagan, because it's unisex and fits better than my birth name. I'm not sure how I feel about transitioning, and even if I was sure I wanted to do it I can't at this time.
I'll probably drop by for discussions and for advice on what I can change now. Maybe changing a little will tell me how far I want to go, and what to do when I get the chance.
Nice to meet you all.
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new11:57 am - Hello/advice?
Hey. I'm Ritchie, 15 year-old ftm. I'm looking for some advice, I guess. I'm lucky enough to have friends who don't mind about it (at least the ones I've told so far), but I'm a little nervous about both talking with them in more detail about it and discussing it with my parents. I'm not expecting them to kick me out, they're not like that, but it could still go badly if I screw up telling them. All my parents really get right now is that I don't like acting/dressing female, and they're okay with that. But there's a big jump from that to saying "hey mom, dad, I wanna be a boy." And even with my friends who've been okay with it, I'm scared about how they'll react if/when I start transition.
What I want to know is... how should I go about discussing it, maybe how to react to concerns they might have... and if they're receptive, what am I supposed to do first? If I want to be able to transition, what do I have to do? (I understand surgery is probably not an option until I'm 18, but am I allowed to do anything now?) It might be easier for them if I say I don't want to jump completely into this all at once, but maybe do one thing at a time, and I'd like to know what that should be. (I'm planning on asking them for a binder, but I've met resistance with this before. Is that a good first step and should I keep fighting for it, or should I look for something else?) I'm a bit worried about money in our family at the moment- is there a way to make costs easier? Sorry about asking so many questions, but I'm feeling really confused about everything right now, so any help would be appreciated.
(I hope this is the right tag. If I need to change/add something, tell me?)
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nervousDec. 4th, 2009
11:20 am - HRT abroad?
Hi, I'm an mtf hoping to start on HRT in the next few months and I have a question about international travel. I'm a college student in the US majoring in Japanese and am really hoping to study abroad at the end of next year to get the most out of it as I feel I'm getting close to academic fluency. I'm also concerned that this could very well be my last chance to live there longterm as it's already hard to find work in Japan and once I transition it will probably be harder still.
Does anyone here have experience with living overseas on HRT? What difficulties am I going to face, and what am I going to have to know?
Thanks.
Dec. 3rd, 2009
11:24 pm - I wrote this last night
After the NY Senate chose to vote 'no' on equal marriage rights, I wrote this little piece and posted it on my FB:
Today the NY Senate voted 'no' to gay marriage and preserved the sanctity and future of traditional marriage. Gays and lesbians are the number one threat to marriage today. It is a little known fact, but homosexuals are responsible for 100% of ALL divorces in NY. Either by causing spouses to outgrow one another, or by messing about with married people's bank accounts so that they have financial problems which cause friction, there is a gay person behind every divorce.
( Cut for mention of domestic abuse )
You may ask, "What about spouses who cheat? Surely THEY are responsible for their own actions and the subsequent cheapening of marriage?" Well, my friend, I'm sorry to tell you, but you have been suckered in by the propoganda of the gay agenda. It's a tempting fiction, but here's the truth.
FACT: every single person who cheats does so with either a gay man or lesbian woman who has strategically placed themselves in that person's life to compel them to break their marriage vows. It is all part of the master plan of the gay agenda.
So I congratulate the NY Senate on their decision today. They are defending and upholding all that is good and right in this world. My only question is, is it really enough? We are still at risk here, people. As long as there is one homosexual allowed the same rights as we real people to walk freely in this country, I'm sad to say I'm not sure we'll ever be truly safe.
This is Naarah-Blue Meath, an upholder of TRUE marriage rights, saying "Goodnight New York, and well done."
********In case anyone missed it, this is dripping with sarcasm and bitterness*********
06:19 pm - Binders?
I'm getting more and more dysphoric about my breasts. Now I can hardly stand looking at them and they're always in the way. I've tried binding, but they're size D and it hurts like Hell. It's depressing, really. Wish there was an easier way.
I kind of hope they turn out to be milk tits that will eventually fall off ... Though I'm not sure I'd like a visit from the Tit Fairy. Or have an EVEN larger pair grow out instead:S
... Anyone know what kind of binder, you should get, if you have large breasts?
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contemplativeDec. 2nd, 2009
08:51 pm - Name Change
Well this time next week I will hopefully be legally Melissa! My court date is next Wednesday, and I am full of emotions! I am excited and nervous at the same time. I have been having mild anxiety attacks and eye twitches over the last week. I really can't wait till it's over, but at the same time I feel like I might be going too fast for my family. My parents found out about me in July, and here it is December and I am changing my name! I was thinking I would do this early next year, and that would give them time to adjust some more.
Anyways for those who have gone through a name change do you think I am moving too fast, and what kind of emotions did you go through before the court date and after?
Peace
Melissa :)
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curiousDec. 1st, 2009
11:28 pm - a thought
100 people get Swine Flu & everybody wants to wear a mask. A million people have AIDS & nobody wants to wear a condom.
If this is out of place feel free to remove it.
04:46 pm - Call for Submissions (FTMs)
Call for Submissions
LITTLE BOY LOST: True Adventures of Men without Boyhoods
Editor C. Michael Woodward is seeking submissions to Little Boy Lost (working title), an upcoming anthology by transsexual men on the longer-term psychosocial impact of transitioning from female to male.
A note from the Editor
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SUBMISSION GUIDELINES
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About the Editor
C. Michael Woodward is a writer, musician, speaker, consultant, political advisor, peer counsellor, and social justice advocate — in no particular order. He led the Southern Arizona Gender Alliance (SAGA) for more than five years and worked in variety of roles at Wingspan, southern Arizona’s lesbian, gay, bisexual, and Transgender community centre.
Woodward currently serves as Co-Chair of the City of Tucson Commission on GLBT Issues and Chair of The University of Arizona President's LGBTQ Advisory Council. He is a former Board member of Female to Male International (FTMI) and is profiled on Lynn Conway's Successful Transmen, a prestigious website recognising leaders in the international Transgender community. Michael was a keynote speaker at the 2008 Southern Comfort Conference.
Since 2003, Michael has presented training and information about LGBTQ and allied concerns to thousands of people across the country. In 2009, he formed lgbtQ&A Diversity & Inclusion Consulting, providing sexual orientation and gender identity cultural competency, best practices, and transition planning services to organisations and individuals nationwide. For booking information, contact michael@lgbtqa.com.
In addition to more than a dozen how-to books on computer software, Woodward has published magazine articles, blogs, op-eds, and other writings on a variety of non-fiction topics. His latest book, Little Boy Lost: True Adventures of Men without Boyhoods, is currently in progress.
okay02:02 am - Trans Asexuals on Hormones
I am a young trans guy who is in and out of the asexual community. I started my testosterone shots about a week and a half ago *hands out celebratory cookies* and I've been wondering about some of the effects.
I have been told, and I have read extensively, that one of the effects of testosterone is a sharp boost in sex drive. I'm curious how this might affect an asexual person- creates a "normal" sex drive? Higher drive, but still no attraction to other people? No noticeable effect? I mean, I can ponder the possibilities all day, but what I'd really like is information from real trans people who identified as asexual before and/or after taking hormones about how they affected their sex drive and sexual identity. As an FTM, I've got a more personal stake in learning about testosterone, but I'm curious about the other asexual hormone experiences as well.
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asexuality, but got a limited response (mostly pre-T trans guys with the same question), so trying here to see what y'all have to say on the matter.
Nov. 30th, 2009
10:48 pm - Ken Zucker and FTM psychologist Hershel Russel discuss gender idenity in children
Interesting conversation with Ken Zucker from CAMH, a mother of a gender variant child and Hershel Russel, a trans male psychologist around the issue of gender variance in childhood. It's long, but at least check out around the 12:30 mark, where they discuss the controversy of GID diagnosis. Russel suggests replacing GID with Gender Expression Deprivation Disorder. The problem is not with trans people's genders, it's the anxiety that comes from not being able to express one's gender.
Also, great when Russel calls him and his clinic out for what they're actually doing- which is running a reparative therapy clinic.
edit: to fix typo
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10:21 pm - Locker Rooms:S
I play badminton every Monday and the woman I play with insist that we shower there before we go home. And normally it's just me and her, which is fine as I'm used to that, but today there were about 10 other women there and it creeped me out! I'm usually rather shy around women and I felt sooo weird and self-concious, but I didn't know how to say no to her. It may seem like a small problem, but it grows and grows inside my head. It felt so bad and I'm strangely ashamed of myself. Yikes! Definitely have to learn how to say no.
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anxious01:49 am - I'm a little hesitant to post this, but I thought I would try.
I know that there are many strong opinions (and worthwhile ones at that) on this forum, and that is why I am posting this here. I want to get an honest opinion. From my IRL friends on here, to people I only keep in touch with every so often, even stretching to those I have never met, but hope to. I have a fire lit under my ass about this. Have had the motivation to do it right for a long time. And now, I finally have the guts to ask this community for its story. And so, here goes nothing:
I don't know if anyone else feels this way, but when I first considered transitioning, books and movies written and/or starring transpeople really kept me going. Yes, it sounds silly, but it worked for me. However, after getting further in transition, I have noticed a trend in trans film: the token trans person; the butt of all the jokes or a "shocking revelation" that becomes a plot point. I am tired of this. I am trying to become a filmmaker, and filmmakers create what they can relate to. I would love nothing more than to create something that would speak the minds of our community as people, not others. What I am asking for, here, is this: what story would you want to tell? Yours? A friend's? A stranger's? Would you like an adaptation of a popular webcomic (I've read most of them myself)? Any and every suggestion is welcome. I want to create a story that is true to life; one that doesn't focus on surgery, but what we go through up and until surgery. A story that will truly capture what it is like to transition. I'm not talking an MTV True Life special. I'm talking the nitty, gritty, beautiful contradiction that can be transition.
For the mods, if this is an inappropriate post I will gladly remove it, but I think our story needs to be told, in a truthful, heartfelt manner. That is my only goal. If this is not the correct place to post this, please feel free to pm me for contact info. I can not promise any acting roles as of this moment (because, well, it's just an idea at this point), but anyone who contributes will be acknowledged (including negative feedback if allowed).
I want to thank you all for not covering me in tar and feathers. I just......I don't know. I want to help. And this is the best way I know how.
12:44 am - Communities/Groups for FTMs/General TG of Colour?
Hi everyone! I don't post much, but this is one question I definitely need some help with. I run a number of forums/websites, and one of them is a forum and social site geared toward teens, which has a section for helping with the typical growing-up problems/questions. It's not specifically a trans-oriented site, so there aren't a lot of other TG members besides myself, but we do get them occasionally, and I try to do a good job with helping them out.
One of our members is FtM, and he posted asking about groups to talk to other FtMs. Specifically, he wanted to know about transition-related resources relevant to his race, because he has some specific concerns regarding things like hair, as well as questions/issues regarding African-American masculinity. This isn't exactly an area I'm familiar with, and I've spent the last few hours searching, but all I could find was a Yahoo group and an LJ community of uncertain activity.
So, does anyone know of other groups/communities/forums/websites/whate
Nov. 29th, 2009
06:41 pm
Hey everyone.
So does anyone know how trans friendly NYC is in general? I'm just wondering since I plan to move there in a few years and begin transition there. Also, how would costs be like for hormones, laser/electro, etc? I'm not originally from NYC so I don't know how this will effect me or my insurence. Thanks!
01:10 am
Today, I was basically outed to my father (after successfully coming out to my aunt.) Which started a fight, in which I was told to "Stop denying the truth", "You're schoolmates are going to think you're a fucking weirdo when you're an adult and they remember this stage", and other such bits. He also decided that he's taking away my binder as soon as we get home (currently being in another state with my aunt.)
Dad won't read anything I send him, but he might read things my aunt (his sister) sends him, so I'm sending her links. I've sent her several new articles and trans family/kid sites, but I'd love more links.
And, is there really anything I can do on the Dad front? We've got no money (less than 700 a month from unemployment with at least 200 of that going to my brother's medication before anything else), I'm a minor, and my school counselor doesn't speak with students.
Nov. 28th, 2009
11:54 pm - Improvisation
I'm a 19 year-old trans man living in a small Midwestern college town, and am having difficulties transitioning. I have lived full-time as male for the last year and a half, though I have not legally changed my name.
1) No doctors nearby. This is not a town known for its stellar medical care, and it houses no doctors who specialize in transition-related care.
2) Iffy therapist. I am seeing a therapist for free at the health center, but I only have four more sessions left available to me. She is sympathetic and polite, but knows nothing about aiding in transition.
3) No money and little transportation. There are two bigger cities nearby, but I lack the time and funds to commute and pay for care there.
My immediate concern is getting a letter from a therapist so that when I can access medical treatment I'll be able to do so right away. However, I know nothing about the procedures for this. Do letters have to be addressed to someone specific, or are they general, "To who this may concern" letters? Is there an expected format? Is there a good way for me to convince my current therapist to do this for me, and defeat her possible argument that she doesn't know what she's doing? I'm self-reliant enough to do all the work therapists are supposed to do according to the SOC, so I'd just be using her signature for this.
I've tried looking through the tags, but didn't see anything. Help?
-Tobias
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