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jolie_o

07:29 pm - HRT and hair loss

Has anyone experienced hair loss a few months after starting HRT? I have some thinning going on the top of my head and hair line. I don't know if it's the adjustment to hormones, but of course it's very discerning to me.

Any thoughts?

Current Mood: okay

02:07 pm - mt testes

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syvilan

11:21 am - My dysphoria story. [Possibly Triggering possibly Controversial].

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prtyldy

09:00 am - trans remembrance day 2009

Sorry if this is a repeat post, but I only have a quick second to post. Does anyone know if there are any transgender remembrance day events in Portland, Oregon this year? I cant find anything listed anywhere for Portland!

Thanks!

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shrines

08:32 pm - health care exclusion?

for those in the us or international folks who are particularly savvy about us issues:

i have heard from a few people about trans women's health care being specifically excluded from the health care reform bill that passed in the house this weekend. does anyone know anything about it? i've looked, but haven't been able to find any articles or posts that actually cite where in the bill this is. i've also tried looking in the actual text of the thing, but it's like 2,000 pages of vague bullshit that i just can't bring myself to wade through.

if anyone has any information, that'd be awesome. thanks.

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elegancewaves

01:24 am - TransAnxiety

So. When I first moved to Vancouver from my crappy, closed minded city, I had kind of arrived on the false impression that maybe my anxiety wouldn't make a return here. Although I should have known that, having dealt with anxiety and depression since I was 13, and I am about to turn 22 next month, that simply moving to a "more open minded" area wouldn't eliminate the anxiety and depression forever. It was completely fine for the first few months, but I've completely unraveled again, and I don't have a clue what triggered it. Now all of a sudden, I'm suicidal every day again, and I can't get on the mass-transit system without having a mild heart attack over whether or not everyone in the vehicle is judging my soul to death. Its like I'm petrified to my seat every time.

I mentioned it to my doctor today when I went in for my Spiro refill. Apparently now I'm a candidate for free counseling. I asked if I would still need to talk to a gender therapist for it to count towards hours clocked towards getting approved for SRS, and she said no. It'll all count towards everything I'm working for, I just need to be approved by a psychiatrist when I'm going for the actual SRS (which is covered by health care, bless their souls). Thankfully, there are several that can approve me here instead of just the one Alberta had. Which is marvelous, because to be frank, I'm not a big fan of a therapist telling me I can or can not make the decision for myself anyway at $200 an hour. I would like to applaud the health care system for actually caring about my well-being here. Calgary will bleed you dry for as much as they can get. In my opinion anyway. Its nice to know I really do have access to help and progress when I'm poor and isolated.

Although as much as I love the Three Bridges Clinic for all of these things, I do wish they'd stop sticking me with a different student doctor every time I go in.

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danielle_1983

09:02 pm - why?

so yeah i know i am just starting the process but heels make me feel pretty.

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lilly_noodle

08:21 pm - Jobs in England?

Is anyone here or does anyone know of anywhere Trans friendly in the Crew/Holmes Chapel area of England that is hiring. Lilly's partner (Trinity) is desperately looking for a full time job and has been having no luck. Trinity is great amazing with computers and has done IT work, that would be preferred but anything help will be most appreciated.

Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this. We are running out of ideas.

Love,
~Lilly

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lightbeamguru

11:06 am

Hey guys.. I need a shoulder.

I'm Mike, im 24. I'm living in orlando. I'm poor. I'm off my T. I dont have any docs down here. I'm lightyears away from surgery. I'm single. And I feel like I'm living in a shithole.
I guess what I'm saying is I need friends. I literally only know the people I work with and they basically all learned about me being trans right off the bat. I'm way more solitary than I'd like and I think its gone something to do with it. I'm reeling a bit after a girl told me I'm not her type because I cant stop reading that to mean "I dont like girls who pretend to be guys." I just havent really found a place to fit here and it just seems like everythings coming apart at the seams.
A few guys contacted me saying theyre in orlando too off of FTMVanity, but I lost their emails. I guess I'm looking for someone to hangout with. Someone to talk to. It seems like its impossible to make friends without college to help the process.
I'm just having a crappy day and dysphorias taking advantage of it, I'm stuck in a whirlwind, in my apartment, which feels like doom.


sigh. I dont even know what I'm asking for. Attention maybe?

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syvilan

06:30 am - How many ways to become infertile?

I know of the surgeries they do which can make anyone infertile. But there's ways other than surgery isn't there? I'm positive I'm not the only one who gets gender dysphoria from likely being fertile. If I can completely lose my fertility my self esteem will be a LOT higher. So with surgery out of the picture how many ways can someone become completely infertile, and how safe are all these said methods? What about some combined ways to become infertile? So far I've heard about having cellphones in ones pocket, certain types of medication, lots of hot showers, high amounts of caffeine, lack of sunlight /etc/, but it's really complicated there may have been things I didn't hear about yet?

Also want to hear about ways for both mtf, and ftm infertility as I'm positive there's other people in the same situation here.

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lithiumdaemon

12:24 am - Seems an odd situation...

I came out to my manager at work today.

( It went well, but... )

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syvilan

07:46 am - Is sexual orientation an oppressive cisgender concept? [Controversial] warning.

I mean it just seems so binary. You can't be a true heterosexual, or a true heterosexual if you do not have an opposite to your gender. The lucky ones amongst us get to become full men, or full women one day. A lot of the rest of us are forced to live as not fully either gender. Some of us who can't transition are thrown into lifelong androgyny. Some of us non-transitioners can't truly be heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual because we don't have a purely opposite gender to compare to. Are these labels, oppressive ones made for people who get to live on the binary spectrum? I feel left out, and frustrated whenever I hear people mention their sexual orientation. I get reminded that physical femininity mixed with physical masculinity mixed with a feminine personality makes me neither gender in a sense. Then I feel left out because I don't have an opposite to claim a sexual orientation.

TLDR: Are sexual orientations extremely binary biased thus oppressive to non-binary people?

Edit: Removed the term "pure" as it has bad undertones.

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roryjames

02:15 am - Transgender in Canadian Military

hey guys, I have the opportunity to write an article for "This Magazine," a Canadian national magazine.

I want to write a feature on transfolk in the Canadian forces and this means I need a character. If anyone is in Toronto or the surrounding area and is interested in making their story known, please message me!

Thanks so much!

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witch_inside

01:39 am - Question

I am getting ready to move to a new state and town in the next year or so. When I go I am hoping to introduce myself from the get go as female. I understand that this will probably scare some people away but then again those are not the people I would want to get to know anyway right? I guess my question is, is it a good idea to be upfront with new people right away about being trans or is it likely to isolate me from the community before they have a chance to accept me?

Current Mood: cheerful

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deedeeann

02:56 pm - Help me i'm too hairy :(

"Help....help...help"  (imagine the voice trailing off for dramatic affect)...

Please tell me if anyone has had any personal experience regarding what can be done with way too much body hair (*frowns*).

I am trapped in here! This body I have is so hairy (almost I swear like a guerilla). What has worked for any of my sisters out there?? I am trying laser now...but I heard it isn't permanent and will be starting hormones soon, I heard they help.   

So please help me. If any of you can share what helped as you were starting MTF transition I would be forever grateful.
 

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Love DeeDee

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marc_87

12:19 pm - Conflicted

I am just so conflicted. I know meeting with my new therapist here in like a week will help but I was hoping I could maybe get some 'help' before then. Just wondering if anyone else felt like I do and where they are now.

I identity more as a guy. It just feels natural and better to me. I feel most comfortable dressed like a guy and I like it when I am mistaken for one. However, I feel like I am betraying someone if I get rid of all of my femininity. I hate dressing in revealing clothing but got use to it because I thought that is what my husband wanted. I will admit he looks at me differently when I do and I like that look but the discomfort I feel in those clothes is just so great, especially now that I am being honest with myself. So, anyways, kinda to my point, I have wanted a breast reduction since they kept growing (2 kids does that to ya). But now I am wondering should I just reduce them or get rid of them since the cost is about the same for both. But I feel bad if I completely get rid of them because I feel like I can't be feminine for my husband then yet I know he doesn't want me doing that.

Current Mood: confused

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gender_euphoric

01:31 am

How would you define trans liberation, and a trans liberationist politic?
is it roughly a synonym for anti-cissexist?
I'm especially interested in any blogs or references that don't cite feinberg or koyama (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla%3Aen-US%3Aofficial&hs=w4y&q=%22trans-liberation%22&aq=f&oq=&aqi=)

one of the reasons I am asking is I've been using "trans liberationist" a lot lately--somehow it crept into my vocabulary and I'm just wondering if I'm using it in a coherent way.

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pikake

08:06 am - tampa, fl - city council voting to amend human rights ord. to include gender discrimination

"Tampa council grants protections to transgender people"
By Janet Zink, Times Staff Writer
Posted: Nov 05, 2009 02:04 PM

TAMPA — The City Council on Thursday gave unanimous preliminary approval to expanding its human rights ordinance to protect transgender people from discrimination.

But does that mean cross-dressers are protected, too?

Specifically, the ordinance prohibits discrimination on the basis of "gender identity and expression."

"Is it today that I'm sitting next to Albert and tomorrow I'm sitting next to Alice?" asked council member Charlie Miranda.

( Read more... )

a few thoughts of my own:

- the title is misleading, because this was just a preliminary vote.
- so much of the article makes me want to *headdesk*
- the whole "crossdresser vs. transgender" false dichotomy is completely ridiculous on so many levels.
~so much of the banter from some of the council folks seems to be centered around this completely privileged position which just might set up trans* folks up for further scrutiny of their bodies in the name of "non-discrimination."
~who gets to decide whether one is "truly" trans* or just trying to cause a disruption or whatever? [just for clarity's sake, I am referencing charlie miranda's words here.]
~what would happen to people who are transgender and personally ID with a M or F label but are not considered to be "passing" by employees?
~etc...
- so many of the comments make me want to *headdesk* as well


a few [more positive] thoughts of my own:

- YAY! my favorite city council persons were among the ones who countered the derailing points about "cross-dressers" and what not.
- john dingfelder, one of those council folks, is running for county commissioner in 2010. last night, he told me that if gets voted in, he will be a solid ally in helping overturn the current county-wide ban on gay book displays in libraries. double YAY!
- despite the ignorance of some of those folks ... there was only only ONE dissenting vote! that's pretty damn exciting, eh?

...what's new with local news where you all live?

Current Mood: excited

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aureantes

03:17 am - Annoying/infuriating news re healthcare reform (USA).....

Just in via headline-sampler in my Yahell Mail...

Conservatives shop sex ops ban to GOP

The federal government would be banned from funding sex change operations and other services for transgender individuals if social conservative activists get their way.

 There’s no sponsor yet for an amendment to the health care overhaul – and it may remain in the dustbin of unrealized wedge issues – but culture warriors are shopping the proposal to Republican senators.  (Full article at Politico.com)


Obviously, it can't just be assumed that healthcare reform is going to be automatically inclusive of everyone who's heretofore been marginalized by the system -- political/rhetorical pressure needs to be applied by us, because it's imminently being applied against us, on the same "social values" grounds as the pressure already being exerted to ban any governmental funding of abortions via public healthcare option (I recall the topic coming up earlier here, but it wasn't necessarily seen as related to trans issues then, even though they are naturally lumped together by social conservatives).   Politicians need a good kick in the arse from their trans constituents and everyone else who cares about actual social equality, before this evasion has any chance to get slipped in and undermine any real healthcare reform. 
 

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leon_krouser

01:44 am - Gender Fucked @ UA

Current Mood: angry